Updated: Mar 23
Hi family, and Happy Soul Food Sunday. Did you miss me? I hope you all have been keeping up with your self love/care routine, saying no, and taking the necessary time out to focus on yourself and your personal goals. How is that f#@k it list coming along? Now on to the good stuff.
I happened to see a video online of Viola Davis, and it stuck out to me in a big way. Viola said "Who said all that who you are has to be good? All of who you are is who you are. How about owning it? Owning all of it? The good and the bad." Read that again please.
Society tells us to strive to be the best version of ourselves, but what if we just loved ourselves how we are? Let me be clear, there is always room for improvement, but we need to dig deep, and come to terms with why we are changing. Are we changing to better ourselves for ourselves, or are we changing ourselves for someone else?
The issue with the idea of being our best selves insinuates that there is something wrong with who we inherently are. We get so caught up in obsessing over the person we want to become, that we create a sense of inadequacy that then takes us out of our present moment, and puts us a place where we are always looking to the future. How can we fully love ourselves, and be in the moment if we are obsessing over who we want to become in the future. It is okay to not be perfect, it is okay to not be where we thought we would be at this stage in our lives, it is okay to make mistakes, and it is even okay to not learn from the same mistake the first time around. Instead how about we focus and put our efforts and intention into being the best version of ourselves TODAY. I want to earn my masters degree, but what can I do TODAY to ensure that I am taking a positive step in the direction to earning that masters degree?
I say all this to say that you are the best version of yourself, and there is not much that you can do to change who you are, or where you are in this exact moment. So how about just working with what you have today, instead of obsessing over who you want to be six months from now. Do you realize how much time you are losing by doing this? You will always be a work in progress, and instead of focusing on what needs to be improved, highlight what is amazing about yourself. You know what you could work on, and what you need to do to get where you want to be, or even what you need to do to ensure your own peace within the chaos, but why have you not done it yet? The bigger question is, what/who brings out the worst version of yourself? Get to the point where you are protecting your peace at all costs, because why not?
What does success look like to you? I think that the the older I get the less success looks material and flashy, and the more it looks like peace of mind, happiness, and living with intention. I am no longer striving to be the best version of myself six months from now, but more so being the best version of myself today, and each day I am fortunate enough to wake up.
But...it starts with self love, and accepting who we are as a whole, not just the good parts. With no day promised, it is important that we focus on each day, and make sure that we are living life on our terms, making memories with the ones we love, and treating ourselves every chance we get. If this is the only life we get, make sure you are making it the best life possible on your terms.
What are some of the things you wish to improve in your life, and how do you plan on reaching these goals? Comment below and let me know how your week was, and how you treated yourself. Also, I created another blog called *Things We Weren’t Taught in School | Black Edition* So click here to check it out. Speaking of living the best life possible, check out some of my favorite nature photos below. You can also click on them to enlarge them to get the full view. Let me know what you think in the comments below. Remember, don't judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant. Until next time family, talk soon.