Happy Sunday family!!! I have missed you all since Wednesday, what have you done for yourself lately?
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Let's talk about the law of attraction. You know how the concept goes right? The law of attraction is the belief that the universe creates and provides for you that which your thoughts are focused on. The results of positive thoughts are always positive consequences. The same holds true for negative thoughts, always leading to bad outcomes. Now is this true 100 percent of the time, of course not...or is it?
Ask and you shall receive right? Let me put this into context. If I have 25k worth of debt, and Im asking the universe to please send me money so I can get out of debt. I sit back and wait, and really put all of my energy into this "wish". Boom, I get a nice chunk of change, and now I am able to pay off my debt. 5 months later, I am 15k in debt after having 25k in debt 5 months prior. Why? I am asking for things that I have not prepared myself for receiving. I have not educated myself on responsible financing practices, I have not broken bad habits, and really worked towards being the best me I can be to receive these gifts I am asking for. So I end up receiving, and losing the gifts. By doing so, I am not taking accountability for my role, and just blaming everyone and everything because I am back exactly where I started.
So, how can we tie in the law of attraction to our relationships? This goes for family, friends, acquaintances, and romantic relationships.
I have a good friend who I always have really good conversations with. She told me about a relationship term called "tomato". A tomato is the state of a relationship when you're not quite dating but not just friends. Kind of like how a tomato is a fruit, but couples as a vegetable as well. So let me tell you about my tomato.
I have known my tomato for going on 12 years. I love my tomato. My tomato is my person, and my soulmate...all that mushy stuff. Here is the kicker. I have been asking the universe to send me my tomato, not realizing just how much work was ahead. With everything going on in the world we have had a little rough patch. Things have just been off, and we just could not get things right, and on track. Is this what I have been asking for? Yes. Do I deserve to be loved and appreciated? Definitely. It must not be meant to be if it is so hard, right? Wrong. I say all this to say, that we ask for things that we have not put the work into to maintain. I sit here transparent with my Nautical Tripper family, and say that I am not perfect...I know, huge shocker. My tomato and I have vowed that no matter what we will maintain our friendship, and work and support one another to be the best versions of ourselves.
I had to really dig deep inside and realize that I may have been the problem sometimes. That I also have toxic behaviors, unhealthy defensive mechanisms, learned behaviors that do more harm than good, and a serious ego problem. I hate being wrong. I hate admitting I am wrong. I allow people too many chances who do not deserve them. I do not speak my mind, and would rather keep the peace. I see potential in people that they do not see in themselves, and in turn end up allowing more than I should from them. Most importantly, I do not put myself first. That is a biggie.
When we talk about self love/care, we also have to deal with behaviors that impede on us receiving what we deserve. At the same time we have to take accountability for our role in the way things turn out for us. Most importantly, we have to gauge by not changing my behaviors, am I willing to lose -fill in the blank-? After my rough patch with my tomato, I had to really talk to myself and ask, is this worth losing my person and one of my best friends? The answer was no. I had to get real vulnerable and uncomfortable, and let my tomato know all this is not worth losing my person. Your tomato does not always have to be a tomato, but it could be a relative, a friend, a passion, anything. Are your toxic behaviors more important than your happiness, your self respect, your sanity, and overall quality of life.
These behaviors may look like not thinking you deserve something amazing, overworking yourself, feeling guilty about taking time out for yourself, staying in a toxic situation, allowing people to take and take, not speaking up for yourself, being in denial of your own issues, not taking accountability, always being defensive, not going to therapy, not dealing with deep rooted issues, and the list goes on and on.
We have to stop blocking our blessings. It is that simple.
We need to continue to evolve and be better versions of ourselves so that we can be ready to receive what we are asking for and deserve.
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No matter what you are going through, you are stronger than you realize. Remember that, and believe that. Talk soon.