Hi my Nautical Tripper Family!!! My has it been a week. People have really been showing their true colors, and I have been removing them faster than a knife fight in a phone booth. What have you done for yourself this week? Tell me something excited or groundbreaking that happened to you this week? What are you grateful for in this moment? Let me know in the comments.
Now let us get on to the good stuff.
Warning...If you do not like the F word, I suggest you click off now, because this blog is jam packed with it.
Let's talk about why we all need a F@$k it list. We all know what a bucket list is, correct? Well, if we are unsure, a bucket list is a number of experiences or achievements that a person hopes to have or accomplish during their lifetime. For example, your list could include travel destinations, food experiences, adventures, concerts, or anything else for that matter. I highly suggest if you do not have a bucket list, to really take the time to write one out and start checking off the boxes...well...when the world opens back up of course.
Now, your f@#k it list should be the exact opposite of that. Things that you will no longer accept moving forward. It can include behaviors from other people, behaviors from yourself, things that do not add value to your quality of life, or just things you no longer want to worry about after today. I will share some of my f@$k it list items with you because like everything I need to make it known so I can hold myself accountable.
1.F@$k Mediocre Friendships: I am bad at this. The saying that comes to mind for me is "Stop choosing length over health". This is relevant to friendships, relationships, hair, and anything else you can apply it to. I have known people forever and grown apart from them, and connected instantly with others that I have not known long at all. I have to get away from holding onto people just because I have known them for a long time. So, F@$k it.
2.F@$k The Past: As humans, we have all done things that we are not proud of, and this is okay. I still have moments where I do not make the best choices but you know what, F@$k it! No use in crying of spilled milk right? What is done is done. I can only try and be the best version of myself everyday, and live my life as intentional and positive as I can.
3.F@$k Stressing Over The Future: I have a horrible tendency to stress about the future which in turn causes me to not be in the moment. Being a Sailor, I tend to have to plan, then have a plan for that plan, and then have a backup plan to the backup plan. F@$k it! I want to live in the moment, and enjoy every moment that I am in. There is a time and place for everything, and I will work it out when the time comes.
4.F@$k What Other People Think: Self Explanatory.
5.F@$k Expectations: Too many expectations can lead to disappointments. So...you know the drill. I am no longer expecting things from others, or living up to unrealistic expectations that have been set forth upon me. I am living how I want, without self limiting restrictions.
6.F@$k Feeling Bad: I am terrible at this. I always feel bad about something someone did, or allow people to make me feel bad because they guilt tripped me into feeling a certain way. If you are wrong you are wrong, and I am not going to feel bad because they are not emotionally competent enough to apologize or admit fault. I also will not allow people to make me feel bad for saying no. Check out last weeks blog about that, you will not be disappointed. Click here.
7.F@$k Allowing People to Control my Feelings:To add on to number 6, I am trying to just be unbothered. If someone says something ignorant, they're getting ignored. Someone is being rude to me, I will be unbothered. I am trying to have Omarion and Buddha vibes for the rest of my life. 2020 is really teaching me more and more about myself, and I am here for it.
Comment below and let me know what is on your F@$k it list. How did you feel about this Soul Food Sunday Post? Let me know! Since we are saying F@$k it, check out some of my pictures from when I was in Spain and decided to just hop on a bus and take a day trip. Until next time Nautical Tripper family, remember: karma has a surprising way of taking care of situations, all you have to do is to sit back and watch.
Happy Fathers Day, and Talk soon.